The quick comparison
| Type | Lasts | Safe with silicone toys | Safe with latex condoms | Cleans up |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Water-based | Medium, reapply as needed | Yes | Yes | Easily with water |
| Silicone | Long | No | Yes | Needs soap |
| Oil-based | Long | Check the toy | No | Needs soap |
Water-based: the easy all-rounder
Water-based lube feels natural, works with every toy material and is safe with condoms. It can dry out during longer sessions, but a few drops of water or a little more lube brings it back. If you are only going to own one lube, make it this one.
Silicone: long-lasting glide
Silicone lube lasts much longer than water-based and stays slippery in the shower or bath. It is condom-safe, but it should not be used with silicone toys. It takes soap and water to wash off, and it can stain fabric, so keep a towel handy.
Oil-based: for massage and skin
Oil-based products feel rich and are lovely for massage. They break down latex condoms, so never use them together. Oil can also be harder to wash out of bedding.
What to look for on the label
- Short ingredient lists are usually gentler.
- Unscented and unflavoured options suit sensitive skin best.
- Warming or tingling lubes are fun for some and irritating for others. Try a little first.
How much to use
Start with a small amount, about the size of a coin, and add more whenever you need it. Warming it between your fingers first makes it far more pleasant.
Keeping it fresh
Store lube with the cap closed, away from heat and sunlight, and check the expiry date. If it changes colour, smell or texture, replace it.